Whew. It's been a crazy week, not because of the impending holidays, but simply because of a surplus of work. I'm grateful for it, but it has reduced the time I have available to think about posting something worthwhile.
Thankfully, I have options. Here's a piece my dear, wise wife wrote a few years ago and which will appear in our church newsletter this month.
I should add that I vividly remember a former colleague sharing with me that her daughter, having learned that there was no Santa Claus, asked, "Mom, is there really a God." So, no, this issue of teaching our kids cute untruths is not a trivial matter.
TRADITION OR TRUTH?
I urge parents and families to reflect on some holiday traditions and consider some changes. These changes may require some to break cherished traditions, but I’m convinced we must ask ourselves two questions: “What must I hold to most dearly, tradition or truth?” and “Is it my true desire to glorify God in all things?”
Many Christian homes through the years have celebrated holidays by sharing the traditions of the culture. More and more, our “Christian” celebrations look, taste, and smell just like everyone else’s. Our children put their teeth under pillows, hunt for eggs in the spring grass, and hang stockings on the mantle. In a world where Christians seem more and more to “blend in,” we must evaluate our practices and ask whether they are pleasing to God and whether they demonstrate the fullness of the Gospel to a watching world.
One area where tradition clearly presides over truth is in the practice of giving our children reasons to believe in mythical characters who do not exist. Children, especially very young ones, cannot easily discern between reality and fantasy. In their minds, the two are mixed together. They are totally reliant on adults to sort the real and the unreal, and help them know the truth.
How often have we as parents used truth to comfort a terrified child in the night? Have we not assured them that monsters do not live under their beds because monsters are not real? How many times have we listened to a child tell us about a nightmare so we could help him discern between what’s real and what’s not? One of our greatest responsibilities as parents is to help our children learn what’s true about themselves and their world. This responsibility is given to us from the Author of Truth. Why do we fear that reality will overwhelm or eradicate children’s imaginations? Should we not be more concerned that what’s false will cloud truth?
Many Christian parents find it “cute” to encourage belief in characters who are so clearly false to adults. They go to more extremes to convince their children of lies than to convince them of truth. Children lie awake at night wondering when the tooth fairy will arrive to take a lost tooth. Year after year, they leave cookies and milk for Santa, hoping to hear his reindeer on the roof or catch a glimpse of him sneaking into the house to leave gifts. How is God honored when children are more excited on Easter Sunday about a basket full of candy supposedly left by the Easter Bunny than they are about the empty grave and the living Savior?
Why do Christians not revolt against these truthless traditions? Why do our Christian radio stations and bookstores embrace these fantasies, and justify doing so as they sell us ideas and products that are clearly lies? Why do we listen and follow, instead of rejecting the lies and refusing to pass them on to our children? Why do we feel compelled to “shield” the child who believes in Santa or the Tooth Fairy from the truth? Should we not feel more compelled to tell and live out the truth? Jesus did not hesitate to reveal the lies of the culture He came to. He did not fear the hatred or the persecution. He did not hesitate to point out the hypocrisy of the traditions of men. Why do we?
Let’s ask ourselves whether practicing these traditions glorifies God. Do they demonstrate the Gospel to a watching world? We know the answer before the question is asked. They do not. Let’s look closer at some more reasons why.
Each of the mythical characters in these traditions is given credit for bringing things that clearly come from the one true God, who gives us all things. Is not a letter to Santa similar to a typical child’s prayer? Why do we encourage our children to pray to God night after night, but when it comes to Christmas gifts, we encourage them to write a letter to Santa for the desires of their hearts?
Each of these characters “work” through supernatural powers. They are attributed qualities that belong only to God. These include the abilities to be invisible, to be in many places at once, and to know whether we are being good or not. Did not the Romans and the Greeks give such powers to their pagan gods? Have we not encouraged our children to embrace modern idols, to expect something from someone other than God?
The most disturbing mythical character is Santa Claus. He’s a jolly elf with a kind face and a big heart, but has he not become the god of modern materialism? We may justify his “existence” by referring back to the godliness of his human counterpart, St. Nicholas. We may embrace him as a symbol of the spirit of Christmas, the example of giving. But why does the Christian need another example, another symbol, or another “spirit” when we have the true, living Holy Spirit of Christ? How is God honored if we hold up a “partner” to the Christ who has no equal?
Encouraging a belief in Santa Claus as an existing, godlike character is clearly against what the Bible teaches. In order to include Santa in the celebration of Christmas, lies must be spoken and believed. Jesus always spoke Truth. To give Santa the qualities of God is to make for our children an idol. To lead a child to believe that a fictional character brings toys and treats is to encourage her to worship and adore someone other than Jesus. Contrary to tradition, Santa is an idol, an icon of human selfishness, and a tool of commercialism. He is not a symbol of giving, and should not be presented to young children as such. God needs no such symbol. Santa does not encourage a young child to give. How many children who sit on Santa’s lap tell him what to bring someone else for Christmas?
And what about the effect of purposely misleading our children? How many of us still remember the disappointment, confusion, and gloom that settled into our hearts when we learned the truth that our parents had lied to us for so many years? Why do so many of us do the same to our children?
It’s past time for true Christians to take the unpopular stand and tell the truth to everyone about Santa, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and every idol of our traditions. We should start with our own children, and I pray we’ll start now.
For His glory alone,
Kathy Bailey